It’s been over a month since I last published something on here and I’ve really missed it!! Writing – whether it’s about clothes or makeup on my blog or the latest life drama in my diary – is sooo therapeutic and I’ve neglected it for too long. I won’t say it’s because I’ve been too busy – the hermit crab life has truly sucked me in this month – something has just had to give while I attempt to get the balance right between work / catching up on what feels like 3 months-worth of sleep / keeping in touch with pals / eating properly / stayin’ peppy.
Last Tuesday I took the day off work to help J with a health thing and found myself sitting in a cafe for three hours without internet. There had been no better time to try and get back into the swing of blogging!
It was my birthday the day after and while I normally dislike the actual day (annual unprovoked bday blues, yay), it’s a good time to reflect on the past year and think about what can make my next trip around the sun a better and more enriching one. “X things I learnt in X years” is a blog I’ve seen floating around the internet and I thought I would jump on the bandwagon to document my first birthday celebrated on the blog 🎂
So, if you want to find out what insightful / inspiring / interesting / probably utterly useless bits of info I’ve picked up over the past 22 years, read on…!
1. It’s OK to leave university without a plan
Yeah, I know having things planned out to a T dampens that natural fear of certainty, but it’s OK (and normal) to not know which direction to take after uni. It’s also absolutely OK to change that direction after realising the path you thought you wanted to go down didn’t feel quite right after all.
2. Saving money is great but don’t deprive yourself of a monthly cocktail or that sexy pair of shoes you can’t stop thinking about
You’ll get that dream Australian apartment / shiny new car / family of dachshunds one day (let’s cross our fingers for age 60 🤞).
3. “Too busy” isn’t an excuse not to stay in touch with friends
It takes two minutes during your commute to work or while you’re waiting in a queue at a store to drop your mate a text after a couple months of silence. You’ll feel all the more happy ‘n loved for it.
4. Always put bread, a glass of water and makeup wipes next to your bed before a night out
Your very-hungover self will thank your kind-and-supportive-night-before self a lot.
5. Invest in yourself
If a fresh manicure, blow-out or indulgent new face cream once in a while will give your inner radiance a boost, just do it.
6. Quality over quantity
That goes for clothes, friendships, Instagram posts, food…
7. You and your sibling won’t hate each other forever
Your relationship will improve ten-fold when one of you moves out of the family home 😂
8. Time will heal any bad mood
And pizza. Pizza helps too.
9. Eat the frog
A wonderful phrase I learnt at work – putting off things you really don’t want to do will only make it more painful when you eventually get round to it. Just eat the frog, get the annoying / scary / cringe-worthy task over with and focus on the next great thing to come.
10. Worrying about the future or past is an enormous waste of mental and emotional energy that could be better used to pursue happiness in the present
Use “the now” to alter your perceptions of the past and set yourself up for a more enriching future.
11. You’re the average of the five people you spend most time with
Make sure they radiate the positivity, passion and attitude that you would like to too.
12. Don’t run yourself into the ground trying to get perfect A Level and/or GCSE results
Poorer grades won’t hurt you half as much as poor mental health will.
13. Your previous fashion / hairstyle choices will definitely come to haunt you…
…but those neon leg-warmers, tutus and self-cut fringes will be the source of much laughter and bonding with mates years later.
14. Trust your instinct
If your gut is repeatedly telling you that something isn’t quite right, listen to it.
15. Others’ success is just as important and worth celebrating as your own
Also, any excuse for a glass of ‘seccy.
16. It’s OK to feel lonely and sad, and to make yourself feel worse by listening to melancholy music or by watching a Nicholas Sparks movie
Just don’t forget that you’ve got lots of people around you who will relate, who care and who will listen to any string of mumbling, jumbling self-pitying words you’ve got to say.
17. Eating that crème brûlée or bowl of macaroni cheese or entire share-bag of Doritos in one sitting will not make you fat
If you do it every day for a week perhaps you’ll put on a pound or two, but after one odd treat or to celebrate a pal’s birthday? Stop fussing gurl.
18. Doing things alone will teach you a lot about yourself and your capabilities
You can do it, and you’ll be fine.
19. Unlike the characters in the American high school dramas you grew up watching, most people do not have bad intentions
Everyone (including you) will say things they don’t mean. You will judge others’ actions in ways that they never intended them to be perceived and others will do the same of yours – we can’t read each others’ minds, after all. Negative words do not always equal negative intentions and you’ll be a lot better off if you accept this from the start.
20. It is absolutely OK to still enjoy Disney / Dreamworks movies and sometimes favour them over a night-out
You’ll get to uni and realise everyone else is just as obsessed with them too… stick one on the box, grab a bowl of popcorn and you’ve got an excellent girly bonding sesh.
21. People will comment on your excitement over the smallest things – embrace it
The ability to grasp joy from the tiniest action or smallest sweet comment will pull you out of lows and help bring others up into the clouds too.
22. Take time to step back and realise what your priorities are
It’ll save a lot of time and a lot of energy.